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A little bit more about Lovenups

LoveNups is a totally new concept. It is a breath of fresh air.

The word Prenup has a negative connotation because traditionally it focuses on the assets of one of the parties getting married. It’s so bad in fact that most people feel uncomfortable just bringing the subject up. We don’t want anything like that.

A LoveNup, on the other hand, is just the opposite. It is a document that shows and reinforces your love for each other. It shows your commitment to your marriage and what you are willing to do if times get difficult. It doesn’t discuss finances. It is open and honest. It is something you should feel open and proud to discuss. In fact, if your spouse or fiance doesn’t like the idea, you should be asking why.

At LoveNups, we want to change the world just a little bit. We want to lower the divorce rate. When things get a little difficult for you and your spouse, you can activate the Lovenup and get access to our “Pro Marriage” counselors.  They will work together with you to try and bring things back on track. For those that divorce is the only option, we provide access to mediation services to make it more open, less painful and less expensive.

LoveNups is the ” fairytale, honorable, knight in shining armor”, concept.

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If divorce is an option in your marriage, you’ll get divorced.

I heard this once. Seemed pretty profound at the time. I mean why make a statement like this? Is it true? Normally I think options in life are good. So how could this option be bad. You don’t have to choose it. It’s just there, right?

Nope

Marriage is wonderful. It’s great finding the one person in the entire world you want, and have chosen, to spend the rest of your life with. You have found what many desire and dream of. Well, that’s true of course, but it’s also true that sometime during in your marriage you will have difficulties. Now, while everything is rosy the statement “if divorce is an option in your marriage, you’ll get divorced” seems a little like, so what? But, when there is a time in your marriage that the rose seems wilted and the pedals are falling of, then it’s a different story. Then, “if divorce is an option in your marriage, you’ll get divorced” will have new meaning. It can take a life of it’s own and a mantra that can help you dig deeper….( Deeper then that! go deeper) to keep your marriage together.

It’s that knowledge…. it’s that commitment that might just carry you though to even better times. In fact the best times……

… with your spouse.

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Marriages – 50% end in divorce

Do you have a coin? Heads or tails?

“How can that be”, you ask?

Simple really, around 2 million people get married in the US every year. Unfortunately, here is the bad news, over a million people get divorced. Pretty sad state of affairs, but the stats get even more interesting for second and third marriages. The divorce rate for second marriages are over 60% and 70% for third marriages. I don’t think they have any statistics for fourth marriages, but if they did it would a palm to the forehead and shaking your head left to right. So, what does this tell us? Well, if we didn’t get it right the first time, the odds aren’t in our favor going forward. So, what do we learn from this. Well, maybe, just maybe, it might make more sense to work at your first marriage then try look for a better answer in your second.

Just a thought…. but it’s a thought shared by many professionals. You know, the people that have seen and heard it all.

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Divorce sucks

Truly, I mean have you ever heard anyone say what a great divorce they had? I guess maybe if your a divorce attorney that enjoys the system and the process, you might say divorce doesn’t suck. But everyone else involved has to deal with the stress, pain and heartache. It’s not fun for the couple, their friends, parents and coworkers. Worst of all is the toll it takes on children of divorce. I’ve spoken to enough adults who were children of divorce to know the pain and questions rarely go away.

But, this has all been said before. There is nothing new in this post.

The questions is what are we doing about it? Can we make a difference for you, me and everyone. Especially for our children and future generations.

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Marriage is a special relationship

Most of us are affected by marriage in some way.

Whether you dream of marriage, are in a marriage, never want to be in a marriage, been divorced, a child of divorce, or plan on being married, it is a part of us and our culture. One thing most can agree on, that even if marriage isn’t for you, it is an institution. It is a special entity that should be honored and respected.

We believe that with the divorce rate in the US at over 50%, enough is enough….

We want to make a change.

We want to help those that still have love in their marriage stay married.

In marriages that can’t or shouldn’t be saved we want to take control away from the system and create some compassion and dignity to the process and for the couple involved.

We hope you agree with us.

We hope you support us.

We hope you join us.

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LoveNups Private Beta Release

Today marks a landmark day in the life of LoveNups and marriages as a whole. Today, we moved all our code and technology from our design site over to our live site, LoveNups.com. We realize that we still have a lot to do, but we are now ready to show our work and ideas to a select few. That’s why we are now in “Private Beta”, a term we use a little loosely. We are not fully functional yet and we know it. Though, soon we will be and it’s time to invite a select few to view our work.

Want to help us? – Then nitpick, complain & question

We sincerely need your feedback and suggestions. We especially need your questions. You can help us make this site better and help us with our mission of helping marriages. A question, concern, idea, etc bring a smile to our face far more than words of praise. Don’t hesitate to criticize or question because we know our potential users will have the same issues.  We know we don’t have it 100% right…. we know we might not even have it 50% right, but we will strive to make it the best we can. The last thing we want is a couple that could have benefited from LoveNups to be turned off due to confusion or misunderstanding. We know we have a great idea and mission. We know we have a great name. What we don’t know, is if we have implemented it to the benefit and understanding of all.

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…. and we’re off. Thank you

I wanted to make a change. I wanted to make a difference. I started with an idea, a vision, that commitment in marriage and it’s sanctity needs just a little help these days. That divorce, the ugly little secret, needs a major change. It’s clear that business as usual isn’t the answer. Unless of course your a high powered divorce attorney, then maybe staying the same appeals to you…. I’m just not sure. But, a few of us think there is a better way. A way to help save marriages that still have love, and for those that a separation is the only way, a little fairness, openness, and dignity added to the process.

So, an idea has grown and development has budded. Still in it’s infancy, but robust none the less, I’m so proud to be a part of it. But, it is the help of true friends and those who support our mission that are making LoveNups what it needs to be… a game changer, change agent, a breath of fresh air. A simple idea that has grown into a passion to help couples that have become one.

So I want to take this time to thank you, each and every one of you that has helped me, or just spreads the word about us, and will hopefully help make this world just a little bit better.

More to follow…..