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If divorce is an option in your marriage, you’ll get divorced.

I heard this once. Seemed pretty profound at the time. I mean why make a statement like this? Is it true? Normally I think options in life are good. So how could this option be bad. You don’t have to choose it. It’s just there, right?

Nope

Marriage is wonderful. It’s great finding the one person in the entire world you want, and have chosen, to spend the rest of your life with. You have found what many desire and dream of. Well, that’s true of course, but it’s also true that sometime during in your marriage you will have difficulties. Now, while everything is rosy the statement “if divorce is an option in your marriage, you’ll get divorced” seems a little like, so what? But, when there is a time in your marriage that the rose seems wilted and the pedals are falling of, then it’s a different story. Then, “if divorce is an option in your marriage, you’ll get divorced” will have new meaning. It can take a life of it’s own and a mantra that can help you dig deeper….( Deeper then that! go deeper) to keep your marriage together.

It’s that knowledge…. it’s that commitment that might just carry you though to even better times. In fact the best times……

… with your spouse.

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Marriages – 50% end in divorce

Do you have a coin? Heads or tails?

“How can that be”, you ask?

Simple really, around 2 million people get married in the US every year. Unfortunately, here is the bad news, over a million people get divorced. Pretty sad state of affairs, but the stats get even more interesting for second and third marriages. The divorce rate for second marriages are over 60% and 70% for third marriages. I don’t think they have any statistics for fourth marriages, but if they did it would a palm to the forehead and shaking your head left to right. So, what does this tell us? Well, if we didn’t get it right the first time, the odds aren’t in our favor going forward. So, what do we learn from this. Well, maybe, just maybe, it might make more sense to work at your first marriage then try look for a better answer in your second.

Just a thought…. but it’s a thought shared by many professionals. You know, the people that have seen and heard it all.

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Divorce sucks

Truly, I mean have you ever heard anyone say what a great divorce they had? I guess maybe if your a divorce attorney that enjoys the system and the process, you might say divorce doesn’t suck. But everyone else involved has to deal with the stress, pain and heartache. It’s not fun for the couple, their friends, parents and coworkers. Worst of all is the toll it takes on children of divorce. I’ve spoken to enough adults who were children of divorce to know the pain and questions rarely go away.

But, this has all been said before. There is nothing new in this post.

The questions is what are we doing about it? Can we make a difference for you, me and everyone. Especially for our children and future generations.